We have all heard and read dozens and dozens of variations of those same sage words: “If your body is shaped like Y, you should never wear Z.” “Only people with X should wear so-and-so.” And the list goes on and on, repeated over and over again in countless magazine articles, blog posts, TV-shows and websites. “How to Dress for Your Body Type” is how those articles are titled – and here’s why should never believe them.
The advice given in such pieces might be meant as helpful or just as light hearted banter, but what it really is; is nothing short of limiting. First of all, by dictating rules you are really taking the fun out of getting dressed. Instead of playing around with colors and shapes or maybe just throwing on whatever damn-well pleases you, you are sucked into a vortex of absurd rules and restrictions. You’re also confronted by new anxieties, ones that never even occurred to you – “Oh, I had no idea I was supposed to feel insecure about the size of my ankles but I guess I do!”
But what’s even more evil and crippling about these types of rules and the articles which perpetuate them is the amount of focus they put on your appearance. They do so to the extent that it starts to seem like it is your responsibility as a young woman to look and dress a certain way – as if by not dressing a certain way you are breaking the rules and in essence, failing. Also, by calling a body “pear shaped” you are really diminishing what is really there – after all, your body is a pretty damn spectacular thing. It lives, breathes and allows you to experience all the wonderful things that life has to offer.
So I urge you – wear what YOU want. Let loose and and have fun. Look drop-dead gorgeous in a skin tight dress if you feel like it and slob out in sweats on those days when you just can’t be bothered. Squeeze your pear-shaped frame into a tube-dress or drape your bony knees in bulky flannel.
But most importantly, keep in mind that you don’t owe it to ANYONE to look any certain way. And if you find yourself feeling discouraged or insecure, bear in mind these wise words:
“Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked ‘female’” – Erin McKean
By: Pia Vuolteenaho